So much of achievements, outcomes at work and in life depend on clear, concise and confident communications. You might have excellent ideas, but nobody will know unless you find the right way to get them across to others. You can be the most intelligent person in the room, at that meeting or in the office but if you lack communication skills, everybody is missing out.
Don’t feel bad, many people struggle with confidence and effective communication. Simply talking does not make you a good communicator just as hearing someone doesn’t make you a good listener. Terrence Winslow, Anaheim business coach, offers these tips to help you become a better communicator.
Be Precise With Your Words
For example, when using words like “never” and “always,” clarify that these are figurative words. So, you might say things like, “It feels like you never hear what I am saying” or “It feels like you are always blaming me.”
Always and never always tend to have exceptions. So when you add to them, you are more likely to be understood.
You need to maintain boundaries when communicating or a simple conversation might wind up escalating to a shouting match. Arguing never gets you heard and it only fuels hostility. The best way to set limits within communication is with words and phrases. Here are a few examples:
- You may have a point
- I never thought about it that way
- You have a real problem there, I don’t know what to tell you
Ask For Clarification
If you aren’t completely understanding what someone else is saying, have them repeat their interpretation for clarification. And then repeat back to them what you think they are saying just to be sure.
Knowledge is power. The more you know about the person who you are talking to or the audience, the better you can truly engage them. This is best accomplished by asking questions to draw them out. Make it your goal to truly connect with people when you are talking to them.
Body language is critical in communication. Many people underestimate just how powerful body language is and how it can be used to influence outcomes. Research shows that how we position our bodies causes chemical reactions that help us build confidence. Body language also gives us more credibility and has an impact on others.
The Sound Of Silence
The occasional lapses of conversation are completely natural, so don’t freak out if the conversation lags. In addition, letting pauses naturally occur is a way to make sure that you aren’t interrupting anybody’s train of thought.
Know What You Are Talking About
Knowing your subject matter will help put you at ease and make it easier to communicate with others. Don’t start talking about something you know nothing about during a presentation or in an interview, you need to be prepared.
Don’t Comment On Everything
You will be more respected if you have a reputation for speaking out only when you have something important to say. It is far too easy to blurt something out at every chance you get, which will rarely catch attention.
Learn more by contacting Terence Winslow.